Greetings everyone,
Today I want to share a story that's happened to me just now and by that underline the importance of having a good friend tell you the truth about yourself when you really need to hear it.
Today, for the first time in my life I didn't only HEAR the conversation between my intellect and my heart (or higher soul) but was ABLE to WATCH it from the side, as a short film of sorts. Here's is how it happened.
So, as good friends normally do, my friend and I share great things that happen in our lives as well as the struggles that we have to go through on our paths. We've been friends for about 2 years now but it feels like I've known her for eternity, which is probably true, since we have been together for at least 2 past lives. Every time we meet is amazing and she's taught me a lot of beautiful things and still is. I hope I can give back at least a tiny bit of what she's given me since the time that I've met her. I can go on forever about what a truly wonderful friend she is but I don't want to miss the point :).
I invited her for tea and also to check out the new things for the apartment that I had recently purchased. It was our little celebration of a new phase for both of us. She as well, had some great news she couldn't wait to share with me. Sounds like pure positivity, doesn't it? Not until I, all of a sudden, make a silly generalization about something that I cannot even remember now. A negative one, not concerning either of us. Because I feel so comfortable around her and when we talk it's almost like I'm thinking (no masks or cover-ups), this generalization that I made was very hard to catch. It just slipped right through and the worst part was that I wasn't even able to notice it!
So what my friend does, is she starts telling me very mildly but firm at the same time, that that is not a nice way to go around it. She says that if I really want to live a more spiritual life, I need to completely cut it out. I need to stop making generalizations about anything because it is a huge throwback for basically achieving anything in live. It blocks spiritual growth and instead of detox I get more toxins. Oh well. A sad and quite an unpleasant picture, if you can only imagine...
I startle. I become overwhelmed with emotions and feelings I don't quite yet understand. Then I remember to surrender. Knowing that she is right and won't advise anything bad I decide to listen, although it takes me a lot of pain, I keep my ears open. I force myself as my friend keeps pushing forward. My intellect is in full defense trying to find more excuses as to why I said that. Then my higher soul kicks in and orders me to listen. I hear them arguing like a wise parent trying to lecture a naughty kid... The little kid constantly talks back and almost impossible to deal with, but the wise parent keeps calm and demands discipline. The wise parent is stronger. The wise parent wins. Yaaaay! I thought this wasn't going to end that soon.
We had a heart to heart conversation which ended with a long and warmest hug. She said that it was painful for her to see me struggle with this because she had been there before and knows what it feels like. Struggle? Me??? For the longest time I thought I was perfectly fine. If not perfectly fine, then at least OK. And I was not lying to myself. Not at all - things were getting better and better day by day, but what she said to me helped me even more - she pointed at this little thing that I have to change in order to move forward.
Every single day I wake up and see living proof that the Universe really works in amazing, miraculous ways. According to the Vedas, you only get in life what you deserve. I know my friend was just a tool that the Universe picked to communicate to me what I had to work on. But what an amazing tool - a beautiful soul in the face of my friend. I'm very thankful for the blissful gift that I received today. The truth was hard to swallow but I'm hoping for better digestion. Ha!
Great friends always keep you grounded... Just when you think you accomplished something on the spiritual level, a good friend mildly puts you back on the ground, as if saying - it's too early to rest on our laurels - you have a long way to go. In my opinion, grounding is very important when it comes to spirituality and/or religion. With so much information and now even with the media constantly saying that you need to be proud of whatever you are and whatever you are doing, the whole idea of loving yourself oftentimes defeats it's own purpose. We all know that love requires sacrifice. And that includes love towards ourselves.
In other words, we might get too proud and too conceited that we will stop all the work and slowly come to degradation. Since we don't want to go that route, it's essential to humble ourselves as much as we can, to see that there are people that possess better qualities than us. And our response to that should not be jealousy, but trying to get as close to that person as possible along with aspiration to acquire those qualities in our own state of being. And by saying "getting close to that person" I mean a sincere endeavor to serve. Not as a slave but as a servant. So what is the difference? We have a very perverted image when we hear a word "servant". Usually we think it's someone unworthy, someone of a "second grade". However, in the Ancient Vedic civilization a servant meant a scholar. A scholar is someone who is very humble and that who wants to give unselfishly and, as a result, gets a blessing.
I will try cover more of the difference between a slave and a servant in one my next posts, but for now, I will say again that I'm grateful for today's lesson. Blessings come when you least expect them, but they also come in the most unexpected way. It makes it harder to recognize them but that's a lesson in a lesson: we have to learn how to "think" with our higher soul and listen to our hearts. Once we find a way to harmonize the two - the world will suddenly become a better place. The world within :)
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